[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]Finding your purpose in life what does that mean? It is THE reason you were born, it’s the mission you came to fulfil in this lifetime. There’s only one problem: when our soul descends into a human body we forget everything we carefully planned out and it can take us a very long time to rediscover the reason we incarnated. Some people never remember.
You have not yet found your purpose if :
1) You don’t understand the meaning of your life.
You are often bored and you often think that you would like your life to be more interesting. You do things against your will or without spirit.
Your purpose is always in accord with your heart, it is not possible to have a mission that doesn’t please you or that you would not wholeheartedly engage in. When you find your path in life you stop asking yourself 10000 questions, you know and you feel that you are headed in the right direction.
2) You feel like you have no choice
You feel like you have to do what you do, or you feel guilty, responsible or you feel like you owe someone something. You are not 100% happy with your life, but at least you are working for a good cause. You contribute something to society and a noble cause deserves some sacrifice, no? WRONG! You are rationalising your life and you are keeping yourself from finding your true purpose by doing so. Your path cannot be found by using your mind, it can only be found using your heart and your intuition and you won’t feel like you’re making any sacrifices either, every action and choice flows naturally from who you are.
Neither will you find your path by organising your life in function of someone else. You do yourself injustice by living your life for someone else just because you think you have to. And it is not fair towards the person you are sacrificing yourself for, who then ends up carrying the sole responsibility for your happiness. There is no need for you to put your life in the hands of someone else nor to charge someone else with the weight of your existence.
4) Your emotional life is not very harmonious
One of your dominant emotions is fear, shame, anger, sadness, melancholy… Being on your path is an alchemical process that transforms emotions that prevent you from growing and moving forward, into something positive.
5) You often pretend to be someone you’re not
If you feel like you often have to pretend (personal or professional life, circle of friends…), and if you hear yourself saying things that you know you don’t really agree with or that don’t correspond to your values, if you often feel uneasy or out of place, then it is 100% sure that you have not yet found your path, nor are you on your way to getting there.
6) You have one of the following motivations
Money, celebrity, power, admiration, fame, etc. are never your purpose, even if they can be part of the consequences of your actions. Your purpose, your mission here on earth always flows from your heart and is never the result of practical considerations or rational thought. Your mind and your logic thinking abilities are tools to achieve your dreams, not to limit them.
You have found your true purpose if:
Finding our true path in life is often a lot simpler than we think it is:
1) Pay attention to what makes you happy
When you are living your purpose, you feel happy and your life is filled with meaning. This does not mean that you will never experience any moments of doubt anymore, that you will never feel blue again or that you won’t encounter any obstacles anymore, but the obstacles are minor compared to the moments of happiness. Your purpose always makes you happy. When your actions are inspired by who you are on the inside, you will cultivate faith in yourself and your creations and it is this faith in yourself that will give strength to everything you choose to undertake.
2) Take some alone time
Your purpose, only you can find it. All well-intended advice & opinions of others cannot help you find your path. You can only find it by looking inside of yourself and to do that you need moments of silence, of introspection, of meditation, of retreat… Moments where you have the opportunity to do nothing and just listen to your inner voice, without any interference of external factors and influences.
3) Live for yourself
This seems an obvious one, but most people actually live for someone else if they’re entirely honest with themselves. When we are on our path, we are 100% ourselves, no need to pretend. Our life and our actions allow us to express our personality and develop our talents. We don’t feel the need to convince others or to prove something: wanting to prove something means living for someone else. We let the person(s) to whom we absolutely want to prove a point take up too much space in our lives. It’s yet another way of living for someone else. When we are living our purpose, the opinion of other people doesn’t matter because we get all the satisfaction we need from our daily life.
4) Live passionately
Live your life with passion and execute your daily activities passionately. Routine and boredom will kill your spirit. We need to keep moving to keep evolving and to keep our sparkle alive. Your purpose is always fulfilled with passion.
5) Know your triggers
Our emotions are there to point us in the right direction. What moves you? Everyone has certain triggers and you probably know yours all to well. Which issues make you react each and every time, almost in spite of yourself?
Do you suffer when you see an abandoned animal? Are you infuriated when you think about children that are being mistreated? Are you appalled when you’re confronted with the injustices towards women? Do you become desperate when thinking about current methods of education? Are you disgusted when hearing the one thousandth story of corruption in politics? Do you shiver when you see the ugliness of some of today’s architecture? Do you cringe when reading the list of ingredients of some of the industrial food labels?…
You may very well feel all of these things, but some of these issues push your buttons just a little harder than others. These are strong reactions that are not there to be ignored, they are there to guide you, like red flags trying to catch your attention. If something really moves you then there’s a big chance that it is part of your purpose. When you’re able to contribute to the solution of an issue that is close to your heart, you transform these “negative” emotions into an incredibly powerful force in your life.
6) You have both dimensions in your life: a personal dimension and a collective dimension
We are always born to resolve some personal issues: to clean up some past life memories, to work through certain fears or obstacles, to experience things that will complete our comprehension of life. One part of our purpose is to learn, to evolve.
And the other part always adds a collective dimension. We are also here to learn to live together, to learn that everything is connected and that one of the essential dynamics of life is giving-receiving. If we don’t give, at a certain point in life we will stop receiving. We are an individual, but our ego needs to learn that we are part of the collective and we also have a part to play in this collective. This collective can be very large or very small: your collective can be your family, your company, your town, your country, the world….
Whatever your impact, when you are living your purpose you always have an impact on the collective: you serve as an example because of your personality, because of your activity, your style of transmission. A person that found his purpose is always an inspiration to others because this person fulfils a unique function in the world.
Here are some examples to understand the difference:
A chef that absolutely wants his third Michelin star to prove he’s better than the competition and who terrorises the kitchen staff to achieve his goal is not living his purpose.
A chef that is passionate about his cuisine, however, and who loves to play with different aromas and tastes, who is passionate about quality products and who receives 3 Michelin stars in compensation is living his purpose.
A person who became a lawyer because his father was one and because this allowed him to take over his father’s business and lead a comfortable life as a respectable person in the village, just like his father did, is not following fulfilling his purpose.
A person who became a lawyer because he is passionate about human rights issues and because he wanted to know all the legal options to defend human beings and who is earning a lot of money with conferences he is organising to inform people about human rights has found his purpose.
The person who became a primary school teacher because she didn’t know what she’d like to study and “there is job security in education” has not found her purpose.
However, the person who loves to talk to children and make them dream, think and help them discover their talent, who is creative in her teaching methods and who takes pride in the fact that so many of her students have been able to find their passion in life, has found her purpose.
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(EN) Priestess and weaver of inspirations and dreams, I create sparks and connections between inner realms and outer perceptions, between spirit, soul and body. The main themes of my multi-coloured tapestry are the path of the Sacred Feminine and the quest for harmony, with a dash of wonder, magic and a whole lot of authenticity woven into it.
(FR) Prêtresse et tisseuse d’inspirations et de rêves, je crée des étincelles et connexions entre le monde intérieur et les perceptions extérieures, entre esprit, âme et corps. Les fils rouges de mon tapis multicolore sont le chemin du féminin sacré et la quête de l’harmonie avec comme principaux motifs l’émerveillement, la magie et l’authenticité.